Monday, August 30, 2010

First Update - Day 6


Hello everyone,

If you are checking this blog, you are aware that our husband and father, Burt Stern suffered a stroke on Tuesday night, August the 24th.  The last six days have been very difficult for all of us, but we have really appreciated all of the support that you have given us.  The outpouring of care has been wonderful.

To help disseminate the information on Burt's condition and recovery we have created this blog.  We will post daily updates on his progress so that you know everything that we do, when we do.   You can subscribe to the blog so that you are emailed our updates automatically as soon as we post them.  This is not to say that we don't appreciate your calls and messages of support, because they mean the world to us.  Rather, we are in the hospital most of the day where our phones are off, so this is just the easiest way to keep everyone regularly informed and up to date.

Beyond that, this is also a place where you can leave your messages for Burt.  At first we will have to read them to him, but in time he will be able to read them himself.  One of the few things we can do now is give him support and encouragement so I know those messages will really help him.

The blog is called 'how Burt's doing' and here is what we know.  This will be a longer update than usual as it is the first, and they will be much shorter than this in the future.  To start from the beginning, Burt suffered an ischemic stroke on Tuesday night while volunteer ushering at Tanglewood, the Boston Symphony’s summer home. Another usher saw him slumped over and immediately came over.  People who were sitting next to him said he had only slumped a few minutes before.  Had this happened fifteen minutes later, Burt would have been driving alone on a dark country road, so we were very lucky.

He was taken straight to Berkshire Medical Center in Pittsfield Massachusetts.  It is a great hospital and they are taking great care of him.  Its stroke unit is in the top 5% in the country, so we feel fortunate that he is there.  He was given the clot buster t-PA 2 hours and 15 minutes after his stroke.  This is within the required 3-hour timeframe that it needs to be administered in.  We will not know what effect this will have for some time.

The stroke occurred because his blood thinning medication was not doing its job.  2 weeks before the stroke his blood was at appropriate levels, but when he came into the hospital it was as if he was not even on blood thinners.  We are not exactly sure what went wrong, but the best guess is that one of the recent naturopathic supplements he was on impeded the efficacy of his blood thinner.  Burt has learned his lesson and will never eat another vegetable.

In terms of the stroke itself, a blood clot formed in his heart and travelled up the carotid artery to the right side of his brain.  It is classified as a moderately large stroke and unfortunately landed in a rather dense area where a lot of white matter (the major neuro cabling) is located.  The surface of his brain is untouched, so he have hope that certain alternate neuro pathways might form.

This part of the brain predominantly covers motor function and he does not currently have control of the left side of his body.  His left eye has some control but the left part of his mouth is drooped.  He has some control of his left hip, so we are holding out hope that with therapy he will eventually be able to walk again, perhaps with a cane.  His inadvertent nerve response on his left leg is functional so that might also translate into control with therapy.

His left arm is not responsive and is locked in a spasm across his chest.  We hope that it comes back but the likelihood of him regaining a lot of use of it is under 40% and small motor function is lower than that.  In the last few days he has regained some sensation in his left side and can now tell when he is being touched and where.  This is a very good sign and means that he should be able to avoid one of the worst side effects of stroke, called neglect, where survivors become unaware of the affected side of their body.

So far, Burt has been unable to swallow.  This is a common side effect of many strokes and all of his doctors agree that this should come back.  His gag reflex is intact and he is able to catch and cough up any saliva and get rid of it with his trusty suction tube.  He had minor surgery today to have a feeding tube put into his stomach.  After six days without food, he is very hungry, so this will give him the much-needed nutrition to keep up the fight.  His first meal is scheduled for tomorrow, but he is still focusing hard to pass his swallow test so he can have some apple juice.

Burt's mind is still very much intact.  He is very tired and hard to understand at the moment, but he knows who he is and where he is.  He can still remember his life and still has his sense of humor.  He has been the only one in critical care who makes his nurses laugh.  We hope to see him with a bit more energy and able to make more eye contact soon, but it is great to know that he is still in there.

After six days in critical care he was moved down to the stroke unit today following his surgery.  They woke him up every hour in critical care, so now he should finally be able to get some sleep. Being in stroke care will also allow him to receive visitors. We still think he could use a few days before he should see anyone, so please call us to figure out a good time to visit.

The first 72 hours are where the highest risk of additional strokes and secondary complications occur, so we are happy to be out of the scariest part of this.  But while this is the end of one phase, it is still the beginning of a very long journey.  As we are learning with strokes, it is not a marathon nor a sprint, but rather a march, so progress must be gauged in weeks and months, not days.  Over the next few weeks we hope Burt regains some strength and awareness to get him ready for the lengthy rehab process.  The doctors expect him to stay in the hospital for a month or longer, and he will need to keep going to rehab for a considerable length of time after that. 

Please check in daily for further updates and leave your messages of support for Burt, we know he will appreciate them, both now and in some of the trying times ahead.

Thanks for being there,
The Stern Family 

24 comments:

  1. Thanks for creating this blog. I'm sure he will have the nurses in stitches very soon. Love to Burt and the family - David Rechtman

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  2. A sudden blow like this is a test of everyone close to your dad, but I know with a family that shares such warmth and intelligence and determination, he'll have the emotional support to go with the treatment he needs to become a little stronger every day.

    He's gotta get better anyway. He hasn't met me yet.

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  3. Hi Burt,
    Even though I haven't seen you in about 45 years, you know what? Looking at your picture, you look just like yourself!
    Get well ASAP!
    love,
    Nancy

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  4. My dear friends, I am stunned and saddened by what has happened to Burt. There are no words to convey my feelings of care and love for all of you. Please tell my friend I love him, and am sorry I wasn't there to help. My prayers will be with you Gregory, David and Miss Connie.
    Regards
    Morris

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  5. Thank you for setting up this blog and informing me. I'm praying for Burt and your family.

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  6. Dearest Burt,
    We are rooting for you from here in Brooklyn where we are spending the summer again. We know you will get better before too long because you can't keep a good (and funny) man down. Keep those nurses laughing!And many thanks to your sons for creating this blog.
    Love, Susan & Michael

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  7. file:///Users/nancy/Desktop/Snapshot%202010-08-31%2001-01-12.tiff

    Dear Burt,
    I don't know if this is going to work. I'm trying to send you a picture of The Puglet, who's eyes will make you melt. When she was 8 weeks old she was sold by a petshop in Brooklyn where, luckily for her, no one noticed she couldn't support herself on her hind limbs due to a spinal malformation. She's also a midget, only 7 lbs., smaller than my cats. She lives on my bed and is the happiest creature you could ever hope to meet. She's 5 years old now. We're very much in love and I've learned to live with a bowl of water in the middle of my bed.
    If her picture doesn't come up here, go to my website: DrNancyAllenHousecallVet.com
    love,
    Nancy

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  8. I wouldn't miss seeing you for the world. As you know, I'm coming to Boston on the 25th to be with Holly for awhile, during which time I hope Connie, David, and Gregory will allow me to visit with you.

    As mentioned to Connie, I could have picked up some thinner from the Home Depot paint dept, in lieu of the Warfarin. Works wonders for almost everything.

    Knowing you as I do, I'm confident that your steely determination and perseverance will pull you through.

    With loving thoughts for your sustained good spirits and return to the comforts and stimulation of your routine activities,

    Fred

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  9. Well, old friend, life has dealt you a blow (either that or you talked to the conductor again), but one from which you will recover. It won't be fun, but that never stopped you before.

    I will be out to the hospital to see you as soon as David tells me it's appropriate. Meanwhile, keep the nurses laughing.

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  10. Hi Burt,

    Wanted to wish you a speedy recovery and great health and strength in the the coming days. I still wear the jumpers you gave me years and years ago; and I continue to get major compliments on them, which always makes me think of you and the wonderful family. You have been fantastic to me; and I cannot wait to visit you all at the house again. Oh, and also to receive some more one of a kind BURT JUMPERS.. love always, Terry D.

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  11. Burt, from now on, please leave any stroking to the professionals.

    While this is not a laughing matter, your sense of humor and stubborness will serve you well, and I and everyone who knows you, is certain you will come through this aces.

    You also happen to have a bevy of friends and family (Connie, David and Gregory not least) who love you and will daily motivate you to regain your strength and mobility, if only so that you can flee.

    I count myself among those who love you and remain resolute in your recovery -- when you are ready, I will visit so that we may go shopping for a proper cane and perhaps can joust with each other (canes optional...figure it out.)

    Connie, David and Gregory -- please take care of Burt, but also take care of yourselves and each other; you are all very special people and mean a great deal to a great many others, myself included. Please let me know what I can do to help.

    Much Love Always, Jonathan

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  12. Hang in there Stern clan, you will make it through. You are all such wonderful people and i'm sure you will be well taken care of Burt.

    I've dealt with strokes in my family, so I do understand the pain it can cause... but I also have seen the amazing recovery that is possible.

    You're all in my thoughts, sending good vibes.

    MUCH Love,
    Paul Fixler

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  13. Burt,
    I wasn't at home to take David's call last night - it was good of him to do so. Guess where I had been? CRICKET, Burt, at Egbaston, Birmingham with Jon, young Billy (catch em young) and Andrew. As we sat contemplating not much happening on the grassy sward I recalled our visit to a game in Lechlade all those years ago and the Tea Interval. (The WHAT??? - Gedouddahere!!).I still laugh and hopefully that memory will raise a smile with you too. We have done plenty of that over the years, old friend, and we will continue to do so. Chin up! Well, you know what I mean. Upish, I suppose, for now.
    With lots of love from us all across the pond. Keep at it.
    Andy
    PS When, soon, you are up and about again do you think you could take a look in the woods for that rocket we lost? It still rankles.No rush.

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  14. Love and good vibes from the heart of Long Island City in this especially difficult time.

    Lucky, we are, to know you all.

    Chad & Nellie

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  16. Hi Unk - I've been thinking about you constantly, and well, so has Norton inasmuch as he can think about anything. We miss you and are hoping you are feeling better day by day. I am waiting for the greenlight (hell, I'd take yellow) to come and visit. I love you, N.

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  17. Thank you for the information!, tell Burt I am hanging a tie on the door. Love Joe DeMeo

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  18. Dear Burt, this was a very bad break.

    I will call you when you are feeling better and near a phone.

    Look at the bright side, you could have been driving over the mountain in the E or X....

    When you get better, you will be seeing the new Don Carlo with me for sure.

    Diana joins me in wishing you the best of care and outcomes.

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  19. Burt Lori and I are sending you our thoughts and positive feelings every day.
    Hal

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  20. Burt, when you need a smile - think of the

    " WEEMEYER "

    Wishing You A Speedy Recovery

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  21. Hi Burt

    We were both shocked when we received David's telephone call but we know that with the your tenacity and the resolve of the Connie, David and Greg behind you this setback will be overcome.

    Since our last phone converation I've been looking forward to, and planning our next visit across the pond to see you all and get you into a little darkened room to print all those negatives you keep telling me about. Just as soon as David tells us that we can come we'll be there. Goodnight my friend and this is to remind you of an early morning encounter with Greg many years ago. ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ

    With Love

    Les and Marj

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  22. Hi Burt, it is Marj and Bill. We are thinking of you lots, and look forward to coming to visit when you are feeling up to it. Sounds like your strength and grit are kicking in, which is great. You didn't need to do this to get us up to Mass! Thinking of you. Marj and Bill

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  23. Your stoic determination has sustained you before and will, again, this time. You're a real hero to anyone who even remotely is familiar with the physical, mental, and emotional challenges you're experiencing now.

    Be thankful that no one cheated by putting some pine tar on the bat for a better grip. I don't know about you, but I hate when that happens.

    Keep up the good work.

    I hope the commanders will allow Donald and me to see you, soon.

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  24. Hi Burt, we await the daily reports with anticipation, first to hear how you are doing and improving each day but also to read of the daily escapades of the Clan Stern. We were worried to hear of Connie's mishap with the nuts and pleased to learn that David knew what to do in the circumstances. Take care Connie, both Marj and I send our love and for your information, Marj is slowly recovering from the accident on the moving staircase we told David about.

    Looking forward to the next report.
    keep up the good work Burt, the belligerent Geordie is proud of you.

    Much Love Marj and Les

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